Are you a people pleaser? Can’t seem to find yourself saying no to people… if so, well you’re on the right page my friend. But wait… there’s more but you have to keep reading to find out.
Once again this week, I found myself in a situation where I said Yes when I really meant NOO. We’ve all been in the situation where someone asks you for a favor, your boss asks you to pick up a shift, or a friend asks to go out. You really want to say no but, you somehow end up finding yourself saying yess…Why? Because well if you’re like me I don’t like to disappoint people. But let’s face it… there has to come a point where we have to say No and enough is enough.
Stand up for yourself and stop letting people walk all over you… even if it’s your loved ones. I think we all tend to forget sometimes, people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
So here’s three little ways to help you from saying yes to people and starting to say no and sticking to it!
- Sometimes all you can say is, I’m sorry. I can’t do this right now. It’s okay for you to say that and not have to feel sorry for saying no and, quite frankly most reasonable people will accept this as an answer. So if someone keeps pressuring you and you start to feel like you’re about to crumble. It’s OK to just repeat I’m sorry, but this just doesn’t fit with my schedule, and change the subject, or even walk away if you have to.
- But if you’re like me where being blunt is not easy for you… it’s also, OK to say, Let me think about it and get back to you. This way you can really think about whether you want to say yes without feeling the pressure.
- And lastly, if you would really like to do what they’re requesting, but don’t have the time its fine to say, I can’t do this, but I can… and mention a lesser commitment that you can make.
Well, I hope this helps you in the direction of saying no and, if these three tips don’t work for you. That’s also okay there’s tons of other ways. Here’s a link I found on the Psych Central page for 21 tips to Stop being a People Pleaser. Check it out, you could learn a thing or two you could teach others or even yourself.